The Yoga of Letting Go- storms & rainbowsย 

The Yoga of Letting Go- storms & rainbowsย 

You’ll often hear a teacher in yoga class say, “Let go of that which you cannot control.” Or “detach from the outcome.” Or even, “Practice non-attachment.” 

One of the Yamas in the 8-limb tradition, Aparigraha, non-attachment. 

Let’s get real though. It’s really crazy hard to let go. How do you let go? What does that really mean?

I think we all can understand the concept; to release our hold on something. 

The dictionary defines it as, “to allow someone or something to escape or go free, to relinquish ones grip on something or someone”

Applying this teaching is a totally different situation. 

As I started examining my own tendencies to hold on to things, I first looked at what I do have control over because let’s be honest, the real root-issue here is feeling out of control of the person or situation. 

So, what can we control?

1. Our breath

2. Our thoughts

3. Our emotions

4. Our actions

That’s it. 4 things that are within our control. 

One of my healers who now speaks to me from the other side once said to me, “Kate, is this within your control?” At which point I do a mental checklist of those 4 things. 

Then he would say, “If not, let it go. If yes, then what are you willing to do about it?”

Key word being “willing”. It is our willingness to change that determines whether the outcome will be different. 

I realized that so much of the areas of my life that cause(d) me stress, anxiety, fear, were because I was trying, hoping, wishing to control something, someone, or an outcome in which I had/have no control over. 

Instead, I had to learn to take control over that which I can, and to let go (of the thought) that I had any control to begin with in the first place. 

In comes the practice of, Sraddha. Deep Faith and Trust. 

I’ve learned that in order to let go, I must have faith and trust that everything is exactly as it is supposed to be in each moment. 

I have to know that there is a greater purpose to unwelcome situations. 

I have to trust that when people choose to leave my life, it’s for my highest good. 

I have to have faith that when my one-year-old puppy has seizures that God has a plan. (Yes, I took him to the vet. Yes, we are getting some answers. No, it doesn’t make it any less scary. Yes, I am taking control of what I can, and trust that all is as it needs to be.) 

Here’s the thing: you can’t say you have deep faith and trust and only believe that when it serves you, when you understand, when things go how you want them to. That’s not Sraddha; that’s a self-serving limiting belief that only pisses you off when things don’t go your way. 

Sraddha is the kind of faith and trust that surpasses all understanding. 

It is the foundation upon which grace is felt. 

It is the underlying structure of safety that allows someone to move mountains and beat cancer. 

It is the heart-pounding, gut-wrenching perseverance that keeps some on the path to healing when storms keep rolling in. 

Letting go is an act of faith. 

It is saying, I am willing to trust. 

I am willing to trust so much so that I am surrendering my felt-sense of control over to something higher that lives within me. 

Letting go is not easy. It is incredibly hard. It is painfully hard at times. It requires strength, patience, determination, and the willingness to choose something new. 

Letting go is an act of grace and humility. 

It is showing up for yourself and acknowledging that perhaps you don’t know, you can’t do it alone, maybe it’s not what you thought, perhaps that friendship/relationship is over, maybe it has been for a while. 

Letting go is an understanding that you don’t know everything, that expectations create obstacles, and that life can be downright shitty at times- and that you’ll somehow be okay. 

Letting go creates space for forgiveness, for compassion, for resurrection, for new life. 

In a forward fold, when we let go of our mind, and surrender our heads into our hearts, we begin to tune inward and hear the still, small(BIG) voice patiently waiting to guide us. Our head may scream, how much longer do I have to hold this? Why isn’t she/he (the teacher) moving us out of this sooner? Why the hell am I still in this position? Our heart knows it’s all okay just as it is in that moment. 

In life, if we go inward, surrender our minds to our hearts, and listen to that same voice, we will be guided to take the right action at the right time.  Our head may scream, how much longer do I have to hold this? Why isn’t she/he (the teacher of life) moving us out of this sooner? Why the hell am I still in this position? Our heart knows it’s all okay just as it is in that moment. 

The yoga of letting go is not to say, stop trying and let life happen to you. 

The yoga of letting go is saying, I am willing to surrender that which I cannot control, AND I am willing to give space for grace, to have faith that through the Divine, radiant light that dwells within my heart, I will take the right action at the right time, and trust that all will be as it is for the highest good of all. 

The greatest gift I have received from practicing the yoga of letting go is returning to the true source of peace that dwells inside my heart. It is a constant and never-ending source of joy that no one or no thing can take away. 

By a continual practice of surrendering control, of taking control of what I can, of having deep faith and trust in knowing all will be okay, through self-compassion and love, my life is realigning to one of grace & ease, even in the really hard moments. 

I invite you to consider a practice of surrender, of letting go, of Sraddha- a deep faith & trust that you are guided, connected, and deeply loved. That life is happening for you. 

That even in the storm, there is always a rainbow if you are willing to see it. 

Much love,

Kate ๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป๐Ÿ–‡

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If I told you

If I told you

If I told you, you are beautiful, would you believe me or would you create an excuse?

If I told you, you are capable, would you agree or argue that you’re not?

If I told you, you have a choice, would you say you don’t?

If I told you, you are brilliant, would you smile and say thank you or give me all the ways you could improve?

If I told you, you are good enough, would you open your heart to receive or sink inward at the reasons you feel you aren’t? 

If I told you, I love you, would you be able to say it back or would you run through the many reasons you feel unloveable?

If I told you, you are perfect, would you blush or speak the reasons why you are not?

If I told you, there is no reason to feel ashamed, would you hear me or go back in time to all the memories you are carrying heavy on your heart?

If I told you, you have a great purpose here, would you believe me or brush it off saying we all do?

If I told you, within you is a light that has the power to light the whole world, would you embrace the possibility of it being true or push away the potential that lies within you?

If I told you, You are the light, would you be willing to see the glowing radiance that dances in your eyes when you speak about what you love or would you glance away and retract from the true essence of who you really are?

If I told you, you are the image of God in human form, would you consider it or would you turn away from the gift of being human? 

If I told you, you are loved so deeply that no matter where life takes you, no matter what happens, no matter what you do, there will never be a more beautiful, perfect you, would you be so willing to surrender into that promise or would you shy away from the grace of mercy?

All of this is true. 

You are beautiful, capable, brilliant, good enough, loved, forgiven, filled with grace, blessed by mercy, given free will, destined for greatness, a radiant light, perfectly designed to fulfill your own unique purpose birthed into your heart by the spark of the Divine. 

Yes, yes you are. All of this and so much more. 

So much love to you,

Kate ๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป๐Ÿ–‡

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Maybe it’s not about being spiritual at all…ย 

Maybe it’s not about being spiritual at all…ย 

Maybe it’s about learning to embrace our humanity. 

Maybe it’s about learning to feel. 

Maybe it’s about learning to stay present. 

Maybe it’s about learning to say, No. 

Maybe it’s about learning forgiveness. 

Maybe it’s about learning gratitude. 

Maybe it’s about finding joy in the mundane. 

Maybe it’s about showing compassion.

Maybe it’s about giving grace. 

Maybe it’s about learning to love. 

Maybe it’s about learning to be loved. 

Maybe it’s about love. 

Maybe it’s love. 

It’s love. 

Love. 

That is all there really is. 

The rest is only an illusion. 

What illusions are you living?

What’s pulling you away from love? 

Lean into love. Even if it’s only a degree. 

Robert Frost said that, “he chose the road less traveled and that it made all the difference.” 

Well, I believe that Robert Frost was wrong. Unless the road less traveled is love, then yes, I agree. But I pray that Love is not the road less traveled. 

I will tell you this. 

I chose LOVE. 

That has made all the difference. 

Lean into love. 

I promise it will make all the difference. 

Big love to you,

Kate ๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป๐Ÿ–‡

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The Real Role of the Lightworkers

The Real Role of the Lightworkers

Ages ago when times were simpler, people would gather in tribes to support each other through the transitions of life. 

Celebrations would commence. Dancing would be done. Chanting would be sung. Discussions would be held. 

The tribe would come together to hold sacred space for love. 

What happened to our world? 

When did hatred and fear take over the hearts of so many?

When did turning a blind eye replace helping your neighbor?

When did, “I don’t care” become more popular than, “Here, let me help.”

I work with many people each week who are self-declared “lightworkers”; someone who works to bring light into the world. I, too, have self-declared this, as well as being labeled as it by many. 

Let’s look at that label a little deeper. A light worker is someone who brings light into the darkness. They are shadow excavators, truth-bombers, hands of hope, torches of fire, to those unable to see, feel, or find their way into the light. 

Lightworkers journey into the dark casting a flame of illumination on all the places where love does not live. It is the job of the lightworkers to bring the light. 

Just as well as a candle lights up a sun-filled room, a lightworker is not fulfilling his/her purpose by shining brilliantly in a room of other lightworkers. 

Yes, the tribe of lightworkers must gather as in ages past, to support, to share, to dance, to chant, to discuss. Then, they must go out into the community and be the light where there in dark. 

Many lightworkers I talk to want to avoid the dark, as they have done so much of their own work to not live in it anymore. They don’t want to leave their sacred tribe. They want to gather more members and live in the community of light. 

What many don’t realize is the only way to gather more tribal members is to leave the comfort of the tribal nest, wander into the shadows, serve those seeking help, and keep bearing the light of truth- not only through words, but even moreso through action. 

As the lightworkers begin to journey into this world that has been infused with suffering, raindrops of love, flickers of light, and beams of truth will eventually overcome the veil of darkness weighing heavy in the hearts of so many. 

Don’t shy away when it gets scary. 

Don’t be afraid to share the truth. 

Dive in. Excavate. You know your soul was made for these times. You wouldn’t be here otherwise. 

The evolution of human beings is dependent upon those awake to act in accordance with the Divine Laws of Love. 

During these transitionary times, yes, it gets incredibly difficult to maintain centering, grounding, clarity, and self-compassion. It is common to want to hide. That would be easy. 

Lightworkers don’t do easy. Simple, but not easy. 

Self-care is a must each day. This is not optional. 

Taking time to reset, to nourish, to nurture, to be. 

Always know you can return to your tribe, and I suggest you do regularly, to reconnect, reinspire, reaffirm, and celebrate the light in the world. 

It is time to serve. Asking your higher power, “How may I serve? Show me who I can serve today? Help me to be love.”

There is goodness, light, peace, and love circulating in this world. The more we are willing to stand as the light, even in the darkest places, the more lightworkers will be born. 

I ask of you, if you are a lightworker, to summon the courage, the strength, the fierceness, to journey into the humanness of this world, and be the beacon of light you are called to be. 

Serve the greater good through kindness, compassion, grace, and love. 

Be the love that lives within your heart. 

It is an eternal flame that has the power to ignite a spark in each person you meet. 

I see your light. I feel your light. I know your light. For we are one. 

Much love and gratitude,

Kate ๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป๐Ÿ–‡

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Are you afraid of dying or are you really afraid of living?ย 

Are you afraid of dying or are you really afraid of living?ย 

This question spoke to me in my morning meditation, “Kate, are you afraid of dying or are you really afraid of living?” 

A question I’ve pondered before but this time it felt different. It hit my heart like a lightning bolt. 

I wondered, is this true? Am I afraid to live? So often I tell myself to have fun. Enjoy life. I hear people say “YOLO” all the time, or “seize the day!”, “make each moment count”, you know what I mean. 

But how often are we really living? Are we living with the energy of fear, as if we will run out of time so we must keep doing? Is that really living? 

Are we living with the hope of somedays, waiting for the perfect time, enough money, ideal situation, to finally live?

Are we so afraid of the inevitable death of our human form that we don’t allow ourselves the pleasure of being human? 

Are we so scared of “the other side” that we hold ourselves back from really enjoying this side? 

Are we choosing each day out of fear of the unknown, tenderly taking each step forward with so much armour on that we can’t feel anything?

What does it mean to live? Have you ever asked yourself that? 

I was confronted with my inner being telling me that I don’t know what that means. I’m not sure how to live in a way that’s not ruled by fear. 

Then of course, my higher self needed to chime in: 

“Kate, yes you do. You turn to faith, and you remember what if feels like to be alive. Remember what makes you come alive. Do those things. Participate in those activities. Be around those kind of people. Submerse yourself in the feeling of being alive. Then your body will remember aliveness and it will continue to seek out that feeling.” 

As I sat with this over the past week, a few realizations came into my awareness:

1. I all too often live with the energy of fear as a back seat driver, just waiting for something to go wrong. Even when enjoying life, I give fear way too much control over how I feel, behave, and perceive much of life. 

2. The moments I feel most alive are the moments when my heart is open, when I’m being present to what is, when I’m lost in laughter or in a deep space of content, with so much joy flowing into and out of my heart. In those moments there is no room for fear. 

3. Knowing these 2 things to be true, I have a choice to make. I can stay in fear of life, knowing obstacles will come, and avoid life, or I can choose to feel alive, knowing obstacles will come, but through faith I can feel through them into peace. 

My choice:

I choose to feel alive. What does that look like? How does that feel? 

How does it feel in my body?

  • Light
  • Grounded
  • Feet firm
  • Heart open
  • Arms relaxed
  • Jaw soft
  • Breathing easily
  • Tall spine

Here are some things, situations, people, that help me feel alive:

  • My kids laughing and playing
  • Moving my body- yoga, dance, walking
  • My husband holding me
  • Horses, just being around them I feel alive
  • Nature- being surrounded by everything alive, living, breathing, exploring the Earth
  • Prayer & devotion time 
  • Singing
  • Concerts
  • Meditation, especially the golden light meditation
  • Helping others find their heart light
  • Painting – I love painting
  • Skipping- when was the last time you skipped?
  • Bonfires
  • Flowing waves
  • Wind through my hair
  • Orgasms
  • Coffee with friends
  • Deep conversations about anything
  • Sitting at a friend’s kitchen table and talking for 4 hours
  • Philosophy/Theology
  • Reading a profound book or one where I get lost in the story
  • Making love
  • Sweating
  • Running in the woods
  • Mountain lakes 
  • Waterfalls
  • Making memories with my kids & husband 
  • Watching a movie with my family curled up together on the couch
  • My dogs breathing
  • My cat purring
  • Long, hot baths with Epsom salts
  • The smell of lilacs, roses, bergamot, pine, palo santo, and sage (not all together) 
  • Flowers
  • Huge trees
  • The night sky

These are just some of them. Now the question becomes, How often am I engaging in these things? 

I’ll give you a clue, not enough! 

Here’s where I believe we have many opportunities, at least, I know I do. I don’t engage in the above list near as often as I want to. Why is that? 

It is because I bought into the society teachings that more is more. That doing is better than being. That there is never enough. That I’m not enough. That worth is proven and achieved, not something we inherently are born with – such a lie! 

All of this is a lie! So to move forward and feel alive, I choose to live. I choose to engage in that list at least one thing each day. 

You say you have dreams and wishes, ideas that will bring you joy. I say to you, if not now, when? If not you, who? 

The only way to live a life where death is not scary, not met with regrets, but a glorious celebration of a life well-lived is to start living. Now. 

Allow your life to be an expression of the joy and peace that dwells within you. Allow your life to be an expression of the light in your heart. Allow your life to be so filled with living that when your time comes, you will easily and gracefully return home. 

I invite you to make your own list.

  • What makes you come alive? 
  • Where do you feel that in your body?
  • Notice how often you engage with the things, people, situations on your list. 
  • Where are there opportunities for more living in your life? 

To really live and feel alive is a much greater yet simpler way of life than to live in fear of dying. I would love to see you really live! 

Much love to you!

Kate ๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป๐Ÿ–‡

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