Are you Intuitive? The Voice of Your Soul, Part One

Are you Intuitive? The Voice of Your Soul, Part One

Intuition. A word used a lot these days in many arenas.

What does that word mean to you?

Are you intuitive?

Many would say, “Maybe” or “I don’t know” or “I would like to be” or even, “No. Not at all.”.

I am intuitive. Guess what? So are you!

Intuition is not something one person has and one does not.

We are all born with a sixth sense, an ability to think outside the box, the perceptions and imaginations available to us to tune into something deeper and bigger than our own ego.

The difference is… how do you recognize it? Do you choose to listen to it? Do you practice developing it? Your intuition is like a muscle. It must be worked with and put through practice to stay strong and become even stronger.

So what happens? Why do we often feel that we are not intuitive? If we feel we are, why don’t we listen to it?

Let’s go back in time a bit…

Remember when you were a child.

 

Perhaps you felt things very deeply and were considered a “sensitive child”. Maybe you were a peace keeper, always making sure everyone was happy because it hurt too much to feel someone’s sadness. Maybe you felt a lot of anger around you and became uncontrollable or irrational or anxious. Maybe you had an imaginary friend or talked to the trees and nature.

 

Perhaps at night you traveled back to God and were able to recall stories from past lives or had visions of loved ones that crossed over but you never met them in this life. Maybe you remember seeing color around objects and people and wondering why others could not do the same.

 

Yes, all things I have experienced or been told from my children or clients.

 

If you were not raised in an environment that embraced this part of you, which many people are not, over time as you became more accustomed to societal norms through family, friends, school, the media, you learned that these experiences were not “normal”. On a subconscious level you chose to begin to dim the light of your intuition.

 

In doing so, you started to feel more accepted, inside the box, able to make yourself who others wanted you to be, a chameleon of sorts, maybe even more loved.

 

Depending on the situation, you changed to fit the mold. You started looking for external validation.

 

When this happened you began depleting your internal trust fund.

Internal trust fund? What is that?

Intuition is based on trust. Trust in yourself. Trust in your feelings. Trust in your senses. All of them. Seeing, Feeling, Hearing, Tasting, Smelling, Knowing.

As a child you had an abundant trust fund. You came into this world as a being of pure love. You did not know fear. You did not know wrong. You did not know anything but love. You were the epitome of abundant unconditional love and I will suggest that you still are. You just have to remember.

 

You fully expressed all feelings: sadness, screaming, laughing, playing, giggling, anger, happy, joy, etc… You never held back on how you felt.

 

As you learned right from wrong, feelings and experiences began to flood your internal world.

 

You began to compartmentalize what was acceptable and not acceptable.
You cried at your toy being taken away but then told to, “Be quiet. Stop crying.” receiving the message that when you are sad it is not okay to cry.

 

You were taught it is not good enough to color outside the lines and that it was bad to cut your dolls hair into a mohawk.

 

All these various experiences where you started to doubt yourself and your feelings began this process of depleting your internal trust fund.

 

Every time you did not believe what you were feeling on the inside and told yourself you were not okay as you are, you made a withdrawal.

 

Occasionally there were deposits made when you felt proud but you noticed they did not seem to have the same affect on you as when someone else told you they were proud of you. So you started behaving in ways that aligned with other people’s expectation and validations.

 

Soon you started to live in a way that felt foreign at first but then became comfortable.

Fast forward a few years and a big decision was coming and you instantly felt what you should do. But it did not sit well with your friends so you just told that very loud, pressing voice to shut up and go away.

There’s another really big withdrawal.

The moments of clarity became less and less and soon you found yourself living what was a very wonderful life on the outside but on the inside something felt missing.

You felt depleted and tired. You felt built up anger and sadness. You outwardly expressed love and peace, or so you thought you did, but really inside you were crying for relief.

 

Your trust fund was getting to a zero balance. You felt you had no choice but to follow what had been laid out as the defined path of success and freedom, all the while feeling stuck, caged in, and lonely.

 

You realized you had no idea who you were or what you liked.

 

You felt almost out of place within your own body, and maybe even found yourself saying really mean things to your body every day, multiple times. It had become a stranger and you were unfamiliar with its signals and sensations.

 

You started living an externally driven world while the entire time searching for an internally alive experience.

You became numb to you. It was easy and you did not even realize it at first. It was just what you did.

Routine. Normal. Complacent. Expected.

This went on for a while…the voice of your soul

…then you woke up.

You heard the voice of your soul.

Stay tuned for Part Two where you will learn about the voice of your soul, waking up, and how it relates to intuition.

Part Three will dive into practices to help develop and strengthen your intuitive senses.

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What do you need? A Powerful Question

What do you need? A Powerful Question

What do you need?

When was the last time you asked someone that question?

When was the last time someone asked you that question?

Not from a place of, ‘I can fix’ you but from a place of presence, of giving you your power back, of letting you be just as you are, and allowing you to decide what it is that you need at that moment.

A lesson learned from my daughter.

My 5 year old daughter was sick a few weeks ago. I was trying to get her to rest explaining that her body has an infection and needs rest to heal.

After 2 hours of back and forth arguing where the only thing that happened was my frustration levels going up (yes, because I could not control her or the situation) she finally said,

“Mom, YOU may need to rest to heal when you don’t feel good but when I don’t feel good, I need to play and have fun to heal. You don’t know how to have fun. You always say for us to listen to our body. Your body is telling you it needs rest to heal. My body is telling me it needs play and fun. You did not ask what I need. You don’t like being told what your body needs, so why do you think I do?”

Cue punch in the gut, smack in the face response. Blow to my ego, yes. Eye opening awareness, even more so!

She made a solid case for herself.

Did I ever ask her what she needs? Nope. Not once. Not at all.

I asked her plenty of times if she wanted something to eat, to drink, to watch a movie, cuddle, rest…you get what I am saying.

All I did was offer her based on my own experiences, perceived awareness, and knowledge of what “usually” helps when my body is not feeling well: lots of fluids and rest and of course a concoction of essential oils and other remedies learned. :)

Truth is, if we are trying to teach our children to be aware and mindful, to develop a healthy relationship to their bodies and to Self, then she is exactly correct. Trusting her body is exactly right for her.

Now some will argue that a 5 year old cannot intellectually recognize what they need nor decide what is best for them. I disagree and have been shown otherwise many times with both of my kids. This time included.

I had to ask myself this question:

Do I want to raise self-reliant, aware, intuitive, trusting children or do I want to raise externally focused, outward validation, other people’s opinions matter more than their own children?

This was hard because I was so attached to what I thought was right for her. I was focused on what I read was important to heal. I was rationalizing in my mind that I knew better than her because I am much older and wiser.

Ha! You have to love the many voices of the ego.

So, I let her play and have fun. She laughed. She smiled. She danced. She was joyful and happy. She lived. She allowed her body to feel good and at the end of the day, she slept for 11 hours.

I trusted her. That was more healing than fighting and creating an energy of distress and anger.

I asked her what she needed going forward and listened to her response. I may not have complied with her request but I gave her space to be heard, seen, and loved.

That’s what most of us want, right?

I want my children to be mindful, to tune inward and listen to their inner voice, which they naturally do anyway. In order for them to do that I have to be willing to get out of their way from time to time and let them make decisions for themselves.

I can choose to give them a solid foundation of safety and love, and guide them in how to make conscious choices without telling them what they “should” do or what is “best”.

I allow my children to be themselves; beautiful, brilliant, open-minded individuals, instead of becoming conditioned to listen to what other people say as more important than their own self-knowledge and awareness.

I teach them what they truly have control over: their breath, their thoughts, their emotions, and their actions. Everything else is outside of them and not within their control. That includes other people too.

I teach them mindfulness practices, and how to tune into their intuition and integrate it with their intellect, creating choices that not only serve their highest good but that also honor their heart’s desires.

I honor them and respect them as individuals.

I will continue to ask them, “What do you need?” and be present as they share with me their response.

 

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Remembering a friend

Remembering a friend

This week taught me a few things about life.

Death will do that.

A friend of 4 years made her way to the other side.

No matter how comfortable I am with dying and what that means to me, when I lose someone I deeply cared about, it creates very real moments.

Moments where you can’t escape the pounding of the heart, and the pulling at the belly.

Where it feels like you are being ripped open from the inside, and a stream of emotion comes pouring out with no off switch.

All you can do is allow, feel and remember.

I remember her with grace, passion and love.

She was brilliant. I don’t just mean smart. Yes, she was that. She was wise in ways I had not experienced with many people.

She knew herself and her Self. She was aware of her limitations and instead of using them as crutches, she saw them as stepping-stones to her own growth. She worked her way through them, and allowed them to help her build more opportunities to help others heal.

She was a beautiful light.

Her magnificence lit up a room and people were drawn to her and her to them.

She was always open for conversation about real things. Things that mattered. Things that struck a chord in your heart while at the same time being able to have small talk with a level of interest and passion in what you were saying.

She was present. She looked you in the eyes. She held your vision.

She appreciated you for who you were and from what I can recall personally, she never asked me to be anything different than me. In fact, she taught me to embrace me. All of me. All the dark, dirty corners and the bright, shining light.

She was a friend, a mother, a wife, a daughter, a yogi, a healer. She was rare. She will be missed. Greatly. In many ways.

As I reflect back on our interactions over the years, although I wish there had been more in the past year, the lessons learned from her are timeless. She set examples and inspired me in ways I never was able to share with her.

A few lessons learned from Amy:

  1. Embrace all of who you are – don’t hold back parts of you because others may find it uncomfortable. Shine on.
  2. Take chances. Put yourself out there. Those that relate will find you. Those that don’t, who cares.
  3. Every encounter with someone is an opportunity to make a connection. Get real.
  4. Live for the now. You don’t know how much time you have.
  5. Uplift others. You never know what they are going through.
  6. Go for what you want. No one else can do that for you. Your dreams are not only possible; they are waiting for you to join them in form.
  7. Give with Love and tell those important to you how you feel.

In honor of Amy Frasard.

Fly High Purple Dragonfly!

Be at peace. See you on the other side.

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Liquid Love – Soak in it

Liquid Love – Soak in it

As a child, you were like a brand new sponge. You soaked in everything around you and allowed it all in. You absorbed your environment and felt deeply. You communicated how you felt through words, actions and emotions. You held nothing back. You were pure love.

Have you ever experienced a 2 year old have her favorite toy taken away? All out screaming fest for maybe a minute or two then she has moved on to something else. Return the toy? Pure joy on her face. Then onto the next thing.

Then it happened.  Something occurred and you experienced fear for the first time. Maybe you remember, maybe you don’t. Does not matter. Your being remembers.

From that moment on you began to learn fear and what it felt like to not receive what you needed – love, safety, support.

At 0-7 years of age, your root chakra, muladhara, was opening but instead of receiving the nourishment and stability it needed, it was offered mixed messages and mistrust by its surroundings. (More on chakras at another time.)

Perhaps it came through messages such as, “Stop crying,” “Get over it,” “It’s just a toy.” “Why are you so happy?” “Stop screaming. ” etc…

You began to lose trust of your own inner guidance due to the external messages you were receiving daily. Confusion set in as mixed messages were being presented over how to behave, what to wear, how to act, and what was expected of you in varying situations.

You began to notice what kind of reaction is deemed appropriate and what is not allowed based on external opinion. You learned how to behave to receive the response you desired.

Negative self-talk began to overtake your mind making you believe you are not good enough just as you are. You allowed yourself to become a chameleon; able to shift and change to fit the situation.

As this lack of trust built, you began to hold in your emotions. Feelings of lack, low self-worth, and fear started hardening you from the inside out.

Perhaps it crept into your hips, your shoulders, your low back. Maybe it got stuck on repeat in your mind.

Maybe you began to live a life armored by fear yet in search of unconditional love.

Think about it, many people walk about the world as a dried up sponge. Rough, hard, almost like armor, making sure nothing gets in, all the while wishing and hoping to be loved.

Did you start engaging in external activities to bring in love while inside feeling empty and hiding your true feelings?

Did you start using unhealthy coping behaviors to fill this void that seemed endless? Drinking? Drugs? Sex? Exercise? Food? Unhealthy Relationships? Over busy? Workaholic?

As you created relationships, did you choose which parts of you to show the world based upon what you learned as a child? Or were you unaware that this was even happening?

Then hopefully something happened…hopefully you had moments of being awake.

Moments of being cracked open. Moments of joy. Moments of a fire in your belly. Moments of stillness where the mind-chatter stops. Moments where you feel pure peace and love.

Moments of feeling. Moments of being. Moments of bliss.

This is where meditation comes in.

Meditation is liquid love.

It is a love that begins on the inside and flows out.

Meditation creates full, complete saturation of every cell of your being.

It ignites a relationship with your True Self and reconnects you to your wholeness.

It reminds you of the interconnectedness of all beings everywhere.

Instead of working outside in and hoping you get enveloped in external love, you learn to work from the inside out, cracking open the inner well of self-love, and letting it pour into all areas of being and outward into the world.

You learn that no matter what kind of external relationships you have, if you don’t begin to soak in the love at the deepest layer, a part of you will always stay hard.

You learn that in order to heal you must allow yourself to feel.

As your meditation practice grows, you are able to consciously choose what you absorb because you are filled full from the inside first. You become more aware of what you are taking in and therefore know when it is time to wring out the old, no longer needed patterns, and create more space for love.

There will be times when you again begin to feel too full, stagnant, stuck. Times when you feel out of touch with the flow of life. During those times, here are some questions to ask:

  1. What am I holding onto that no longer serves me?
  2. What habits and patterns are ready to leave that I am resisting?
  3. What limiting beliefs are keeping me from letting in more love?
  4. What emotions am I pushing down that need to surface and release?

You start training your mind to work for you through the practice of meditation, and open yourself into an incredible world where there is inherent goodness and love everywhere.

You are able to let go what you no longer need because you are aware of what you are feeling, and begin to realize that you are able to consciously create how you feel through your thoughts.

You throw out your old, out of focus lenses and begin to see through clear eyes. You begin to experience life as a continuous renewal of beauty and get taken away in moments of awe at the extravagance of your body and its miraculous abilities.

You start decluttering yourself from the inside and create a well so deep filled with unconditional love, and no one is able to touch its reserves – those are only for YOU!

You bathe in liquid love.

At least that is my experience so far…

 

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